The Adnostic

It's officially over with JDate Guy. I got the break-up via blow-off this week and I can't say I didn't see it coming. When you're establishing whether or not you and the person you are dating are seeing other people and your reasons as to why are as divergent as say... this:

Me: I don't want to see other people. Where am I going to find anything better than this?
Him: I don't have the time to see other people.

You start to wonder just how serious he is about you, and when you don't hear from him for a few days you begin to realize that he's not that serious about you at all.

I just finished my cleansing exercises. Well, more like "Deletion for Completion." I had saved all the e-mails and text messages he had sent me over the past month and a half. I jokingly referred to it as "evidence," but looking back, I'm not really sure what it was evidence of. Everything that had so much meaning a few weeks ago seems pretty devoid of any significance now. Delete. Delete. Delete.

On another note, just to complain, because I can. The break-up via blow-off has got to be the worst way to dump someone. A friend of mine once got dumped via text message, and I found that method far preferable to the blow-off. At least there wasn't days of worry and wondering as to what hell was going on.

The blow-off lacks spine and any kind of respect for the other person. You didn't even care enough to end it properly. Heck, I'm a girl and even I had the balls to call Hollywood and tell him that I didn't want to see him anymore. Why? Because it was the right thing to do.

Rant complete.

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Adendum 9/23/05:

This was probably the most painful lesson in non-reactionary behavior I have ever had. Apparently he never wanted to break up with me, he was just too bogged down with work to call. I just got an e-mail from him asking why he thought he was breaking up with me, why didn't I call to talk to him about what was going on, and why on earth did I blog about it? [because I'm an insecure nitwit who's dated so many trolls I don't know what descent male behavior even looks like]

Now, unless he's the absolute most forgiving person in the entire world, it really is over and I have no one to blame but myself.